How to Help a Friend

If you think that your friend has a drinking problem, keep these tips in mind when you approach them about it.

Tone: How you say something is as important as what you say. Be assertive, not aggressive. Remember a supportive and caring tone generally works best. Also, no one likes their dirty laundry exposed so keep the conversation private.

Be Discreet: Don’t call out your friend in front of other people. Wait for the right time and/or place. It’s best to not have the conversation if they are drunk, angry or upset.

Have A Plan: Have specific situations that you want to bring up when talking with your friend. For instance if they have skipped school to drink, got in a fight while drunk, etc…Make sure they know you are concerned. Also, you may want to have the number for a helpline so your friend can call for confidential help.

Balance: To keep from sounding critical, give examples of how you feel when you see your friend drinking. You can also write a note or send an email if you feel uncomfortable talking face-to-face.

Listen: After you finish talking, give your friend a chance to talk and really listen to what he/she has to say. Don’t feel like you have to solve all of your friend’s problems because there are helping professionals who can help your friend.

Keep At It: This might be a continuous process, not a one time conversation.